When looked up in a dictionary, persistence can be defined as a firm or obstinate continuance in a course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition. In simpler terms, persistence is never giving up no matter how hard something is or because you failed numerous times. But, is this something children can be taught?
I remember when I was about 9 years old and picked up my first baseball. My dad had bought me my first glove took me into my back yard and proceeded to teach me how to play baseball. We started off with catching. Numerous throws and I couldn’t catch any. I remember feeling horrible like I would never get it. I kept asking my dad to go inside but he would tell me “No, we’re going to stay outside even if it takes all night. You’re going to do this, you’re going to get this.” It wasn’t until what felt like the 100th time that I actually caught one! The excitement and joy I felt in that moment was remarkable. After so many failed attempts and begging my dad to go inside I did it. If it wasn’t for my dad telling me not to give up, to keep trying, that I will get it , I would’ve gave up after the 15th try.
An article called “Persistence is learned from fathers, says study” it is stated that fathers with more authoritve parenting (parents who allow their kids to explore and make decisions with their own reasons) produced children who were more likely to develop persistence. “When held accountable in a supportive way, mistakes do not become a mark against their self-esteem, but a source for learning what do differently” says Paul Miller (Conley, Mikaela. “Persistence Is Learned from Fathers, Says Study.” ABC News. ABC News Network, 15 June 2012. Web. 09 Mar. 2015.), associate professor of Psychology at Arizona State University. When being supported and told you’ll get it next time rather than being slammed and called names it can really help a child to persist and try again.
There has been many times where I have watched my niece (5) and my nephew (9) get down on themselves and want to give up, especially when it comes to homework. Instead of joining in and talking down on them as well whether it be their mom, grandmother or myself there is always someone there to encourage them to not give up and keep trying until they get it.
Grit (courage and resolve) is also being seen as a key to persistence as said in the article “Does teaching kids to get ‘Gritty’ help them get ahead?” It is what drives one kid to practice at something over and over until they get it right while another quits after the first failed attempt. “ This quality of being able to sustain your passions and also work really hard at them, over really disappointingly long periods of time, that’s grit” says Angela Duckworth,( Smith, Tovia. “Does Teaching Kids To Get ‘Gritty’ Help Them Get Ahead?” NPR. NPR, 17 Mar. 2014. Web. 06 Mar. 2015.) a psychology professor at the University of Pennsylvania who coined the term “grit”. Although grit hasn’t been proven to be taught I believe it can be. Having grit is just the same as being persistence and showing children everyday how you have grit or are persistence will likely rub off on them.
As most children follow by example I believe persistence can be taught if done appropriately. Encouraging children to never give up and to push forward no matter how tough it gets, listening to them rather than bashing them are ways children can be taught persistence. The more persistent children we create hopefully will result in a better future for every single one of them.